What does it mean when it looks like a girl is dating someone, but when she talks to you she never mentions him at all?  Any time she talks about doing things, it's always with her friends, and never mentions the guy in question by name?  It would be interesting to hear a woman's point of view on that one. (Full answer below.)

Face it, as you men say…she’s just “not that into you.” =p (Sorry, had to say it. You men probably would’ve!) Or maybe she is, but she’s hedging her bets/“keeping her options open”…trying to see which relationship has staying power. 

Okay, now for the gentler way to put things…without knowing more about the relationship details between the two of you, it’s hard to know what she’s thinking or why she’s allegedly “hiding” the information from you. We women like to think we’re mysterious creatures, and generally speaking, a bit of mystery tends to intrigue the male species.  

If it’s not mystery, there’s always the possibility that she thinks you’re on a need to know basis, and she doesn’t feel you’re at the “need to know” stage. It’s also possible that she feels uncomfortable discussing the relationship or doesn’t want to “jinx” it by vocalizing it. 

On the other hand, maybe…you should just quit stalking her already, as she’s not likely to confide in you when she keeps seeing you peer in through her windows and you keep meeting up with her “accidentally” at the sidewalk in front of her house as you were “just in the neighborhood” (even though she knows you live on the other end of town and had to take 2 bus transfers and a 5-minute taxi ride to get there). 

Another possibility is that you’ve developed a close relationship, and maybe she feels she’s passed the point where she should’ve mentioned the information, and now no longer knows how or when to tell you. If that is the case, a likely reason is that she’s afraid of hurting or angering you and losing your trust and/or friendship, which probably means more to her than you may realize. As much as it hurts that she has kept the information from you, she is probably hurting as well, wanting to tell you and yet unable to find the words or the method…again, afraid of how this would affect your relationship with her. 

Whatever the case, go easy on her. You wouldn’t want to force the information from her, but encourage her to trust in you, hoping that in being there for her and being that friend she can rely on, she’ll open up and choose to tell you on her own. Once she does --- if she does --- the doors are open for that flood of questions you probably have. She’ll most likely be relieved to have that out in the open between you, and will be willing and needing to discuss it just as much as you. And who knows…your friendship may grow to new levels, with that open honesty and the added understanding you gain of each other from the correlating conversations. 

Whether it’s a friendship or the hope of something more, you will be ahead of the game and should be congratulated once she confides in you…as you would then have an inside track on the complex and mysterious mind and psyche of at least one woman. The question is…can you handle that knowledge?! 

Don’t get all cocky and self-satisfied with this newfound knowledge, though, as that would just cancel out all the progress you would’ve made in the relationship and with the female species as a whole. =p  

Besides, unless you’ve ever been one, you still have much to learn about women…but we’re willing to help you learn if you have about 248 years, 11 months, 17 days, 3.5 hours and 37 seconds to spare. *wink* No? Well, we could try to give you a “crash course,” but it’s still going to take a number of years!

(Then again…it might not be “her” at all. Maybe it’s you.

Maybe you’re just delusional and she really isn’t dating anyone else.

And maybe she would have told you that if only you would’ve asked! D'oh!)

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